GENESIS 2

18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for[e] him.”

21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.  

22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made[h] into a woman and brought her to the man

THE FIRST BLIND DATE

In the 1980’s in the UK, there was a TV programme on Saturday night called Blind date; a boy and a girl had to choose their date from behind a screen by asking three questions. This is a terrible way of choosing a girl/boy and you should never do this.

The first date night in history was in Genesis 2, and Adam had no choice.

So, how are we to choose our future wives/husbands today?

God’s word gives us some principles:

Realise that God understands your situation: vs 18. God said ‘it is not good that man is alone,’ Some people may think God doesn’t understand, everyone is getting married, why not me?

God fully understands, a faithful friend of mine, has waited on the LORD for many years, he and his now wife waited and waited and then brought them together, both of them are over the considered marriage age in China, but God knows when is the right time to bring someone into your life. They will be married shortly, and they are  shining examples of Gods grace and power.

God sees your situation. He sees that it is not good for you to be alone. however you have to understand that some are called to singleness. This is a specific calling and God knows who can handle this tremendous ministry.

I will make a help meet for Him’ – vs 18. God will make a perfect helper for you, the person God makes you will be a perfect fit. God did that with Helen. My sister in law said often to me ‘There is someone for everyone’. Little did I realise she would be in China.

He caused a deep sleep to come unto the man vs 21. So often we seek and seek to find the perfect mate. It’s only when we let go and go to sleep that God can work. We need to go to spiritual sleep and let God work. We are so active thinking we can find the right person for us, that we miss what is really important. We need to have God’s choice, not ours, and not someone’s else choice.

A word to parents and church members: it is not your job to be a matchmaker, let God lead as he is the perfect matchmaker.

Finally, he brought her to the man: he made the woman and then he brought her to the man. If God has not brought him/her into your life it is because He is making your mate, and if He is making her/him spiritually, then he will surely bring her to you.

Single Christian, wait for the Lord. He will bring your mate to you, if he wants you to be married then he will bring that one to you.

Trust Him to do so, wait for the Lord; do not have the blind date mentality.

Whilst you are waiting God is preparing you and him/her spiritually.

God bless you

KK

 GENESIS 24

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LED TO YOUR LOVE

So how can we find our perfect partner? It’s a minefield today. We have so many people giving us advice, even people in church seek to play matchmaker for singles in their church. If you haven’t done, I certainly have.

Abraham was sending his servant to find a wife for Isaac his son. In this chapter we have some good principles for us.

In verse 4 Abraham told his servant to go the land of his brethren to obtain a wife for Isaac; likewise it should be for us. Christians should only date, and certainly only marry other believers. Look at the trouble the children of Israel got into through mixed marriages, and indeed the trouble nowadays that believers get themselves into by going into marriages and relationships with unbelievers.

In verse 9, there was a commitment to keep to this. As Christians we need our young people to make a covenant to keep to the promise of verse 4. Not just to marry a Christian, but to keep themselves pure also BEFORE MARRIAGE.

The servant went to the right place at the right time: see vs 11-13. We need to look for a wife in the right environment. You will not find a good Christian wife at the local bar, but you will find them in church or in a Christian setting.

Look how much Abraham prayed and how much he let the Lord lead him. To find a Godly Christian wife/husband, you have to seek God and leave it to GOD. Proverbs 3:5-6 come to mind here. The servant leaned on God’s understanding and God lead him.

5.Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
   and do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge him,
   and he will make straight your paths.

Just as the servant had finished praying, Rebekah came out. God is always ahead of you, he knows your need. God is always one or even many more steps ahead of us. Amen.

This is a story of faith and complete trust in God. This is a short devotion so I can’t tell the whole story, but we see the principles of praying always, making a commitment to God and then letting God lead.

If you do this young single believer, God will do the rest, See how easy it was to convince both Rebekah and her family to come to Isaac.

Two more points: You know Isaac’s sons. Firstly Esau married outside the family just to upset his parents, and then Jacob, – look how much trouble he got into because he didn’t trust the Lord. Indeed he was dealing with the same Laban we see here in Chapter 24.

A personal note here: I tried and tried to find a wife, made a bad decision which led to a failed marriage and divorce. It was not until I let God lead and fully trusted Him, did he bring Helen into my life.

Trust and obey God, let him lead you to his choice for you.

God bless you

KK